Strange subject, but interesting, well I dare to jump into this boat, "MARRIAGE" either arranged or un-arranged (lol) in both cases, men have to suffer. those who are responsible, I alluded towards age factor, In early period of marriage, in both above mentioned cases, men try to take over situation and tried to pretend as hero "SUPERMEN" who dare to face pragmatic challenges, apart from getting screwed up from both sides(Sweet wife/dear parents) keep pretending as "IRON MEN" with smiling face. after a short while, smiling face start changing into face with wrinkled forehead and look for someone, who either share the problem or take full responsibility of his living circumstances, and all this happened because he did take women as granted, wife along with mother, after finding next to impossible, to keep balance in these relations, poor fellow all of a sudden become "GEEDAR" from "SUPERMAN" this is the actual turning point, where all men become same, poor creature dragged so badly toward mental stress. Nutshell in both cases women played major role to drive men crazy from every thing and they find suitable to stay away from home.
Though religiosity ordained to go for marriage but we as senior apostle to our fellows to have 100 thoughts before becoming crusader and start this crusade. because this could be the only time when one could survive, otherwise whole life relevance as torment with no abode, creeping with despair.
So far I haven't found any one who could be claimant of solver of this riddle, which we all know as women, and respect from heart.(no other choice as well)
For me poor men are the most innocent creature who first instigate for this crusade and once grasped then force to abide this relation in the name of hollow rituals, and kept on this dungeon in bowing position, However I pay great tribute to men who (in most cases) at this frantic point, with ablaze heart,, uttered himself as quell. present as beautiful embellished life.