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black.mist
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GrEaTt . . .
Rana Tahir Mahmood
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Great lesson for everyone but we ponder when our parents away from us.
QaiserMirza
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Duties of Children towards parents
DUTIES OF CHILDREN TOWARDS PARENTS
DUTIES OF CHILDREN TOWARDS PARENTS
1 To respect them
2 To help them in matter of deen and dunya
3 To take care of them when they are old
4 Never degrade them any where
5 Never leave them alone after marriage
6 To fulfill their needs when they are unable to do work
7 Never forget their liabilities when busy with their families
8 Do dua of mercy for them when they are old
9 Do dua of forgiveness when they are dead
islamabadi2
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Re: Duties of Children towards parents
This is the first good thread you have started in a long time...the last two were ridiculous...
This is the first good thread you have started in a long time...the last two were ridiculous...
alibaba222
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Re: Duties of Children towards parents
Masha Allah
Masha Allah
MileStone
MPA (400+ posts)
A Reflection on Aging Parents - Please Read
A Reflection on Aging Parents
Like most children, I thought my parents were superheroes. My mom could open the tightest of jars and could carry us around while she finished her chores. My dad could come back from a long business trip and still have the strength to play and take care of all 6 of us.
I was in denial about my parents’ aging until my dad asked me to take a basket of laundry down the stairs for him because he wasn’t able to carry it. It suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks that they no longer had the strength I thought they’d always have.
The hardest part of witnessing our parents age is seeing a regression in their strength and capabilities. The two people who we turned to for a helping hand no longer have the physical strength to do so.
Yet when Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala (glorified is He) speaks of their old age in the Qur’an, He (swt) does not advise us to offer physical help to them. Rather He (swt) says:
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (Qur’an 17:23)
While there are many verses in the Qur’an that instruct us to be good to our parents, this one specifically highlights how we should treat them in their old age. In his explanation of this verse, Shaykh al-Sha`rawi says that Allah (swt) mentions their old age here because it’s the time in their lives that they are in the most need of their children. He further explains that when parents are younger and stronger, their children rely and depend on them because they are able to help them. But as they age, the roles are reversed – the parents go from giving to being needy, from breadwinners to dependants.
One thing we all notice as our parents age is the change in their character. As we become more independent, they may become demanding, forgetful, irritable, and stubborn. Because of this change in character, Allah (swt) reminds us that especially during this time we have to show the utmost kindness and respect to them.
We are told in this verse to not treat them even with the slightest form of anger. The term “uff” is the smallest expression of dissatisfaction. For us today, this can be rolling our eyes or a slight tone of annoyance in our voices. Shaykh al-Sha`rawi mentions how hard it is to keep ourselves from expressing “uff” because sometimes we do it subconsciously. He advises that we as children should be vigilant in keeping ourselves from expressing these small gestures of annoyance and anger because of how hurtful they can be to our parents.
In the following verse, Allah (swt) goes on to explain further how we should treat them:
“And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.’” (Qur’an 17:24)
“Lowering the wings” is a saying used to express humility. It means that you have a chance to show your power, but you refrain out of humbleness. Similarly, the word “rahmah” or “mercy” gives a connotation of someone, despite having the upper-hand, still showing kindness.
Some of us may consider our parents to be difficult. We may have given up hope that our relationship with them can improve. The beauty of Islam is that God will reward you for your intentions and efforts just as He rewards for good actions. We have to put in effort before we see change. It is important for us to remember that there is no magic pill for good character. If we are truly sincere in improving our character then Allah (swt) will put us in difficult situations with difficult people. We learn good manners through these trying experiences.
We have been given an opportunity to improve our character through our parents. As our parents age, we should speak in a kind and gentle manner. We are merciful to them. We cover their faults. We overlook the things they may do that annoy, irritate or hurt us. We reciprocate with love.
Easier said than done, right? Allah (swt) has given us the answer to why we may not have a strong relationship with our parents:
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (Qur’an 17:23)
This verse allows us to gauge our relationship with our parents by first looking at our relationship with Allah (swt). Essentially, if we are not fulfilling our duties to Allah (swt), then we will not be able to treat our parents in the best manner[SUP]1[/SUP] .The Prophet pbuh taught us, “Righteousness is good character,” (Muslim) so a righteous and God-fearing child will treat their parents with good manners. Allah (swt) has placed such great importance on parents that even their religion does not warrant their child to behave improperly to them.
Now that we are older, stronger and more capable than our parents, this is the time to really show our compassion to them. Our emotions will be stirred by what they say and do, which is why Allah (swt) reminds us that instead of getting angry, frustrated or annoyed at them, we should restrain ourselves and be humble.
The Prophetic tradition provides us with motivation when we find it hard to deal with our parents:
In a famous narration, the Prophet pbuh said, “Ameen,” to three supplications made by Angel Gabriel. One of them was, “Far away is the person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise!” (Muslim)
This person was given a chance to enter Paradise by being good to their parents, but they let the opportunity slip away. This person lost out because of how easy it can be to gain reward for helping them or staying in their company. The Prophet pbuh called out this person because it is the ultimate lack of mercy to leave your parents in their old age.
Similarly in another narration, the Messenger pbuh said, “A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it,” (Tirmidhi). The scholars explain this narration to mean that entering Paradise through being good to your parents is of the best ways to enter it. It not only shows the honor that lies in being good to your parents, but also that it is up the person to take advantage of this gate.
Shaykh al-Sha`rawi says, “Just as they showed you ihsan (the best form of kindness), you must do your best to do the same. But your mercy alone is not enough to compensate for what they did for you. Therefore seek the best form of mercy for them from Allah, the Most Merciful. [by saying] ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small,’ (Qur’an 17:24).”
Just as they still loved us when we said or did things to hurt them as children or youths, we in return do the same in their old age. Don’t wait until you see your parents carried out of the masjid in a box to realize how much better they deserved from you. Don’t wait until that largest gate of Paradise is closed in your face to realize how easy it could have been to enter through it.
May God have mercy on our parents.
SOURCE: http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/marriage-family/parents/a-reflection-on-aging-parents/
A Reflection on Aging Parents
Like most children, I thought my parents were superheroes. My mom could open the tightest of jars and could carry us around while she finished her chores. My dad could come back from a long business trip and still have the strength to play and take care of all 6 of us.
I was in denial about my parents’ aging until my dad asked me to take a basket of laundry down the stairs for him because he wasn’t able to carry it. It suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks that they no longer had the strength I thought they’d always have.
The hardest part of witnessing our parents age is seeing a regression in their strength and capabilities. The two people who we turned to for a helping hand no longer have the physical strength to do so.
Yet when Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala (glorified is He) speaks of their old age in the Qur’an, He (swt) does not advise us to offer physical help to them. Rather He (swt) says:
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (Qur’an 17:23)
While there are many verses in the Qur’an that instruct us to be good to our parents, this one specifically highlights how we should treat them in their old age. In his explanation of this verse, Shaykh al-Sha`rawi says that Allah (swt) mentions their old age here because it’s the time in their lives that they are in the most need of their children. He further explains that when parents are younger and stronger, their children rely and depend on them because they are able to help them. But as they age, the roles are reversed – the parents go from giving to being needy, from breadwinners to dependants.
One thing we all notice as our parents age is the change in their character. As we become more independent, they may become demanding, forgetful, irritable, and stubborn. Because of this change in character, Allah (swt) reminds us that especially during this time we have to show the utmost kindness and respect to them.
We are told in this verse to not treat them even with the slightest form of anger. The term “uff” is the smallest expression of dissatisfaction. For us today, this can be rolling our eyes or a slight tone of annoyance in our voices. Shaykh al-Sha`rawi mentions how hard it is to keep ourselves from expressing “uff” because sometimes we do it subconsciously. He advises that we as children should be vigilant in keeping ourselves from expressing these small gestures of annoyance and anger because of how hurtful they can be to our parents.
In the following verse, Allah (swt) goes on to explain further how we should treat them:
“And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.’” (Qur’an 17:24)
“Lowering the wings” is a saying used to express humility. It means that you have a chance to show your power, but you refrain out of humbleness. Similarly, the word “rahmah” or “mercy” gives a connotation of someone, despite having the upper-hand, still showing kindness.
Some of us may consider our parents to be difficult. We may have given up hope that our relationship with them can improve. The beauty of Islam is that God will reward you for your intentions and efforts just as He rewards for good actions. We have to put in effort before we see change. It is important for us to remember that there is no magic pill for good character. If we are truly sincere in improving our character then Allah (swt) will put us in difficult situations with difficult people. We learn good manners through these trying experiences.
We have been given an opportunity to improve our character through our parents. As our parents age, we should speak in a kind and gentle manner. We are merciful to them. We cover their faults. We overlook the things they may do that annoy, irritate or hurt us. We reciprocate with love.
Easier said than done, right? Allah (swt) has given us the answer to why we may not have a strong relationship with our parents:
“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (Qur’an 17:23)
This verse allows us to gauge our relationship with our parents by first looking at our relationship with Allah (swt). Essentially, if we are not fulfilling our duties to Allah (swt), then we will not be able to treat our parents in the best manner[SUP]1[/SUP] .The Prophet pbuh taught us, “Righteousness is good character,” (Muslim) so a righteous and God-fearing child will treat their parents with good manners. Allah (swt) has placed such great importance on parents that even their religion does not warrant their child to behave improperly to them.
Now that we are older, stronger and more capable than our parents, this is the time to really show our compassion to them. Our emotions will be stirred by what they say and do, which is why Allah (swt) reminds us that instead of getting angry, frustrated or annoyed at them, we should restrain ourselves and be humble.
The Prophetic tradition provides us with motivation when we find it hard to deal with our parents:
In a famous narration, the Prophet pbuh said, “Ameen,” to three supplications made by Angel Gabriel. One of them was, “Far away is the person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise!” (Muslim)
This person was given a chance to enter Paradise by being good to their parents, but they let the opportunity slip away. This person lost out because of how easy it can be to gain reward for helping them or staying in their company. The Prophet pbuh called out this person because it is the ultimate lack of mercy to leave your parents in their old age.
Similarly in another narration, the Messenger pbuh said, “A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it,” (Tirmidhi). The scholars explain this narration to mean that entering Paradise through being good to your parents is of the best ways to enter it. It not only shows the honor that lies in being good to your parents, but also that it is up the person to take advantage of this gate.
Shaykh al-Sha`rawi says, “Just as they showed you ihsan (the best form of kindness), you must do your best to do the same. But your mercy alone is not enough to compensate for what they did for you. Therefore seek the best form of mercy for them from Allah, the Most Merciful. [by saying] ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small,’ (Qur’an 17:24).”
Just as they still loved us when we said or did things to hurt them as children or youths, we in return do the same in their old age. Don’t wait until you see your parents carried out of the masjid in a box to realize how much better they deserved from you. Don’t wait until that largest gate of Paradise is closed in your face to realize how easy it could have been to enter through it.
May God have mercy on our parents.
SOURCE: http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/marriage-family/parents/a-reflection-on-aging-parents/
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realityhurts
Councller (250+ posts)
Please Love & Respect your Parents............
Wahab Afridi
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Re: Please DO it............
good message
good message
TruPakistani
Minister (2k+ posts)
Re: Please Love & Respect your Parents............
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
سورة بنیٓ اسرآئیل:023
اور تمہارے پروردگار نے ارشاد فرمایا ہے کہ اس کے سواء کسی کی عبادت نہ کرو اور ماں باپ کے ساتھ بھلائی (کرتے رہو) ، اگر ان میں سے ایک یا دونوں تمہارے سامنے بڑھاپے کو پہنچ جائیں تو ان کو اف تک نہ کہنا اور نہ ہی انہیں جھڑکنا اور ان سے بات ادب کے ساتھ کرنا
سورة بنیٓ اسرآئیل:023
اور تمہارے پروردگار نے ارشاد فرمایا ہے کہ اس کے سواء کسی کی عبادت نہ کرو اور ماں باپ کے ساتھ بھلائی (کرتے رہو) ، اگر ان میں سے ایک یا دونوں تمہارے سامنے بڑھاپے کو پہنچ جائیں تو ان کو اف تک نہ کہنا اور نہ ہی انہیں جھڑکنا اور ان سے بات ادب کے ساتھ کرنا
insaan
MPA (400+ posts)
والدین کے ساتھ نیکی
امام جعفر صادق ع نے فرمایا :
جو شخص چاہتا ہے کہ اللہ تعا لیٰ اس پر سکرات موت کو آ سان کر دے تو اسے چاہئے کہ رشتہ داروں کے سا تھ صلہ رحمی کرے اور اپنے والدین کے ساتھ نیکی اور بھلائی کرے جب وہ ایسا کرے گا تو خداوندعالم موت کی دشواریوں کو اس پر آسان کردے گا اور زندگی میں وہ کبھی غریب و تنگ دست نہ ہوگا ۔"
(میزان الحکمت ۔ جلد ۹۔صفحہ ۲۶۰)
والدین کے ساتھ نیکی
امام جعفر صادق ع نے فرمایا :
جو شخص چاہتا ہے کہ اللہ تعا لیٰ اس پر سکرات موت کو آ سان کر دے تو اسے چاہئے کہ رشتہ داروں کے سا تھ صلہ رحمی کرے اور اپنے والدین کے ساتھ نیکی اور بھلائی کرے جب وہ ایسا کرے گا تو خداوندعالم موت کی دشواریوں کو اس پر آسان کردے گا اور زندگی میں وہ کبھی غریب و تنگ دست نہ ہوگا ۔"
(میزان الحکمت ۔ جلد ۹۔صفحہ ۲۶۰)
Re: والدین کے ساتھ نیکی
Iam lucky to have my old parents alive living with us, that was my dream come true, but forgot about that there will be wife and my kids also, and really in old age we all become different species and its a tough task a very tough task, big imtehaan, as how can you not even do uff as per religion, its a real challange I think, please pray for me that I pass, ameen.:jazak:
Iam lucky to have my old parents alive living with us, that was my dream come true, but forgot about that there will be wife and my kids also, and really in old age we all become different species and its a tough task a very tough task, big imtehaan, as how can you not even do uff as per religion, its a real challange I think, please pray for me that I pass, ameen.:jazak:
