Family:
one's wife or husband and one's children;
one's children, as distinguished from one's husband or wife
All the members of a household under one roof.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/family
Generally speaking a person, with his wife and children is called family.
joint family means when father, mother, unmarried children and married male
member or members live together under one roof, in the supervision or domination
of the head of family who is normally Father.
There are no hard and fast rules
explicitly stating if under Islam a family
is to remain as joint family. The basic thing is to understand when a person
should marry and how he should marry. Those are the basic principles.
A male has been emphatically told to a) marry when he is financially or
economically well-off :
[SIZE=-1]Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace.....
[/SIZE]وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ
(24:33)
b) Marry the women to whom they like:
[SIZE=-1]"""....Marry women of your choice,...."[/SIZE]
.........فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ..........(4:3
If people may not become angry, I may state that neither our marriages are
in Islamic way nor then our living is nearer to that.
Now the question comes, where to live after marriage. Quran clearly states that
you do not know whether your children (means your own family) or your Parents are
beneficial to you, but at the same time fixes the limit for both of them. So a married
person (Male Member) even after marriage is not absolved of his responsibilities towards
his parents or other family members. That is very very important. Therefore irrespective
of living jointly or independently a person is required to fulfill his obligations towards
his wife, children, parents and relatives. There are clear guidance and rules for that.
Normally people in Sub-continent resort to joint family system/way
PRIMARILY due to
the fact that they do not have ample resources to live independently. As with
marriage another family comes into being, if financial resources permit, ideally the
couple should live separately and far-sighted parents also encourage this.
In the end I quote following verse:
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ
عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمً
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[Shakir 17:23] And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age
with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=-1]
[Pickthal 17:23] Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age
with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=-1]
[Yusufali 17:23] Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age
in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.[/SIZE]
I have highlighted the Arabic word as well as English translations of that world. One can
get the conclusion from that. Perhaps mine explanation will make someone angry?
