بیمار ماں کی خدمت سے انکار، 3 بھائیوں نے ایک ساتھ اپنی بیویوں کو طلاق دے دی

عرب خبر رساں ادارے گلف نیوز کے مطابق الجزائر شہر میں گھر سے دور ملازمت کرنے والے 3 بھائی گھر واپس پہنچے تو دیکھا کہ ان کی بیمار ضعیف ماں پڑوسیوں کے رحم وکرم پر ہے جو اسے نہلا رہے تھے۔

تفصیلات کے مطابق گھر آکر ماں کی یہ حالت دیکھنے والے تینوں بھائیوں نے اپنی بیویوں سے پوچھا کہ ان کی موجودگی کے باوجود پڑوسی ان کی ماں کو کیوں نہلا رہے ہیں جس پر ان کی بیویوں نے ساس کی خدمت سے صاف انکار کر دیا۔

پوچھ گچھ سے شروع ہونے والا یہ معاملہ اس قدر شدت اختیار کر گیا کہ تکرار کے بعد تینوں بھائیوں نے بیک وقت اپنی بیویوں کو طلاق دے کر فارغ کر دیا۔

مقامی میڈیا نے اس حوالے سے دعویٰ کیا ہے کہ بیمار خاتون کی تیمارداری کیلئے اس کی بیٹی دوسرے شہر سے آیا کرتی تھی مگر کچھ عرصہ سے اس کا شوہر کینسر میں مبتلا ہو گیا تھا جس وجہ سے وہ بھی نہیں آ سکی۔

لڑکوں نے گھر پہنچ کر ماں کی حالت دیکھی تو اپنی بیویوں سے کہا کہ وہ اسے نہلا کر صاف کپڑے پہنائیں مگر انہوں نے انکار کرتے ہوئے پڑوسیوں کو اسے نہلانے کا کہہ دیا اور خود سو گئیں جس کے بعد معاملہ طلاقوں پر ختم ہوا۔

 

[Curious_Mind]

ماں باپ کی خدمت کرنا اولاد پر فرض ہے۔
ان تین بھائیوں کو خود اپنی ماں کی خدمت کرنی چاہیے، نہ کے اپنی بیویوں کو حکم جاری کریں۔
جو خواتین اپنے ساس سُسر کی خدمت اللّہ کی خاطر کریں تو اسکا اجر ضرور ملے گا، مگر اس بات کا جواز دے کر طلاق دینا کہیں کا انصاف نہیں۔

 

[zahid.sadiq]

ہم لوگوں کی غیرت ہمیشہ غلط وقت جاگتی ہے، شریعت میں ایسا کوئی حکم نہیں ہے کہ بیوی شوہر کے ماں باپ کی خدمات کرے مگر ہماری مشرقی عورتیں بلا جھجک سب گھر والوں کی خدمت کرتی ہیں.
اب یہ تینوں بھائی ایک دن بھی اپنی ماں کو نہیں سمبھال سکتے ​

 

[Will_Bite]

اب یہ تینوں بھائی ایک دن بھی اپنی ماں کو نہیں سمبھال سکتے ​

Seems like she needs round the clock assistance. Sons cannot bathe their mother.

In any case, it would have been better if the 3 brothers had pooled money to hire a full time female attendant for their mother.

 

[HimSar]

It's not farz but if they handover a responsibility and probably also paid expenses in that context, they deserve to know straight away if the wives are unwilling. They shouldn't have to go back and witness and then find out.

 

[sensible]

بات ماں سے زیادہ شوہروں اور بیویوں کے تعلقات کی ہے ایسی بیویاں اور کس بات پر شوہروں کے ساتھ کھڑی ہوتی ہوں گی اور جب کسی بات پر ساتھ نہ رہے اتفاق نہ رہے تو رشتہ کب تک قایم رہ سکتا ہے ؟

 

[Nosarbazian]

ماں باپ کی خدمت کرنا اولاد پر فرض ہے۔
ان تین بھائیوں کو خود اپنی ماں کی خدمت کرنی چاہیے، نہ کے اپنی بیویوں کو حکم جاری کریں۔
جو خواتین اپنے ساس سُسر کی خدمت اللّہ کی خاطر کریں تو اسکا اجر ضرور ملے گا، مگر اس بات کا جواز دے کر طلاق دینا کہیں کا انصاف نہیں۔

خاوند اپنی حکم عدولی پر طلاق دے دے تو جواز بنتا ہے یا نہیں نہیں؟؟؟؟... جس طرح کی حال تو انہوں نے اپنی ساس کی کی ہوئی تھی.. اس پر میں طلاق دینے کے لیے آپ کو کسی جواز کی ضرورت ہے

 

[desikachra]

The boys set a good example. Now they don't have to bear the expenses of those stupid ungrateful girls and use that money to take care of their mother.

 

[CAPTAIN SOLO]

right decision.....if they dont respect the mother they will not respect the husbands.

 

[Masud Rajaa]

jahalat
jazbati action

kitne logoon ki zindagiaan tabah hoi iss se?

 

[Citizen X]

Mother in law, father in law i.e in laws have no special rights in Islam nor is there any obligation to serve or look after them. It is their own sons obligation and duty to look after their parents. This whole susral mein sewa concept is foreign in Islam.

Each of the Prophets wife lived separately in their own homes. This nuclear family, combined household and bahu will come and take over "puray ghar ke kam kaaj" is a totally desi and might I dare to say hindu concept which after living for centuries along side them we have adopted along with other practices like extravagant weddings and dowry.

Our parents and those people who are about to in the near future about to marry their children specially their sons need to get this concept out of their head that they are bringing home someone's daughter who they loved and raised with all their heart and not a house maid who will cook, clean and look after them and the grooms brothers and sisters.

These brothers absolutely idiots, they want housemaids rather than partners for life in the shape of a wife. Unfortunately that is the majority are of this mindset in south east Asia.

 

[alis]

ماں باپ کی خدمت کرنا اولاد پر فرض ہے۔
ان تین بھائیوں کو خود اپنی ماں کی خدمت کرنی چاہیے، نہ کے اپنی بیویوں کو حکم جاری کریں۔
جو خواتین اپنے ساس سُسر کی خدمت اللّہ کی خاطر کریں تو اسکا اجر ضرور ملے گا، مگر اس بات کا جواز دے کر طلاق دینا کہیں کا انصاف نہیں۔

ager wo ghar beth kar maa ki khidmat karein gay tu kamaya ga kon? biwi ka matlab ye nahein ke wo khanay or pakhanay ki machine ho.

 

[alis]

jahalat
jazbati action

kitne logoon ki zindagiaan tabah hoi iss se?

so what should they do? what do you suggest, they are working abroad/away for the family including their wives, if wives can not simply take care of a person then what is the meaning of family and their sacrifice. I think it is the best solution, Now at least they won't have to feed an extra mouth who is unwilling to cooperate within the family.

 

[Curious_Mind]

ager wo ghar beth kar maa ki khidmat karein gay tu kamaya ga kon? biwi ka matlab ye nahein ke wo khanay or pakhanay ki machine ho.

So 3 sons are required to help all at the same time ?
Use common sense.
They can take turns. Hire someone dedicated for this job and share the burden of expenses
There are 100 ways.
Giving divorce is not of them.

now tell me that after Divorce when all 3 wives are gone. Will they do it themselves or leave job ??

 

[Curious_Mind]

Mother in law, father in law i.e in laws have no special rights in Islam nor is there any obligation to serve or look after them. It is their own sons obligation and duty to look after their parents. This whole susral mein sewa concept is foreign in Islam.

Each of the Prophets wife lived separately in their own homes. This nuclear family, combined household and bahu will come and take over "puray ghar ke kam kaaj" is a totally desi and might I dare to say hindu concept which after living for centuries along side them we have adopted along with other practices like extravagant weddings and dowry.

Our parents and those people who are about to in the near future about to marry their children specially their sons need to get this concept out of their head that they are bringing home someone's daughter who they loved and raised with all their heart and not a house maid who will cook, clean and look after them and the grooms brothers and sisters.

These brothers absolutely idiots, they want housemaids rather than partners for life in the shape of a wife. Unfortunately that is the majority are of this mindset in south east Asia.

You can see how many people supporting this decision from this very comments section.
It need 100 more years for this nation to understand the difference between a maid and a wife.

 

[alis]

So 3 sons are required to help all at the same time ?
Use common sense.
They can take turns. Hire someone dedicated for this job and share the burden of expenses
There are 100 ways.
Giving divorce is not of them.

now tell me that after Divorce when all 3 wives are gone. Will they do it themselves or leave job ??

This is not the point, if wives were professionals who were busy with jobs or doing something else then demanding them to care for the mother in law is unjust but if they are sitting on their ass at home doing nothing while depending on their husbands for everything, then the least they can do is to care for their husband's old mother.

 

[Curious_Mind]

You are

This is not the point, if wives were professionals who were busy with jobs or doing something else then demanding them to care for the mother in law is unjust but if they are sitting on their ass at home doing nothing while depending on their husbands for everything, then the least they can do is to care for their husband's old mother.

saying as if they must return the favor for their husbands earning.
The Husband is responsible to provide for wife and. Holden regardless if the wives are working nor not.
If the wives don’t want to do it, why should the force it upon her??
And to extreme, would divorce her for not fulfilling an unjust and (un Islamic) order ??