Though the light & benign quotes and remarks of the first post of this thread mostly represent the point of view of one particular gender but underneath of those remarks lays a general legacy and sense of misunderstandings & paradoxes of centuries between these two different genders. A man’s relationship with his opposite gender and the nature of that relationship has troubled the great and ordinary minds alike in the annals of human history which I would like to represent in the following section with a sketchy memory;
Plato: A true love between a man and woman can’t exist in this world. In fact a man in this world won’t be able to love any thing except to appease his own ego and satisfaction because of the latent selfish nature of majority of men. For a Man, and in the similar vein Woman as well, the physical and characteristic qualities of his love interest have only one purpose and that is to cater for his (Physiological, spiritual and Egotistic) needs and requirements.
Aristotle: For a vibrancy and sanity to co exist in the character of an individual the instrument of (Intimate) friendship is essential because good friends supplements each others very well during the course of their life. A Man without the company of his intimate friend won’t be able to achieve the great spiritual and materialistic feats which he’s otherwise capable of achieving it with that gift of nature.
Martha Nussbaum: A man can only actualise the presence of his love interest in a vivid manner during the phase of absence of his love interest. His usual state of indifference during the state of presence of his beloved seems to profligate because of the conflicting nature of their personalities but as soon as a female factor tends to get missing in his surroundings he quickly realises the fundamental nature of his dependence on his beloved’s physical presence.
Another Anonymous Intellectual: Normally a Man’s nature is to roam freely and to float in the realms of free flowing air whereas the counteracting nature of a woman, who also happens to be in affair of that particular man, is to grasp her Man firmly and to make quick checks on his free movement because of the fears of his unfaithful disposition which can easily get the stimulus in a free flowing environment.
And of course The highly influential, ennobled & supremely sanctified Personality of Prophet pbuh has this to say on the issue of a Man’s relationship with his Woman in one particular Haidth:
“A Man has to deal his wife very delicately because of the volatile nature of Women in general. Their example is like a crooked and curved bone of the chest which can’t be straightened by the use of force because of the fear of its breakage and it should also not to be left alone for a considerable period of time because of the fear of that crookedness to become sterner and non elastic towards the ends”.
