[FONT=Arial, sans-serif]Anger according to Quran and Sunnah[FONT=Arial, sans-serif]
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[FONT=Arial, sans-serif]The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allh ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. (Fussilat 41:34)[/FONT][/FONT]
Those who spend [in Allh's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allh loves Al-Muhsinn (the good*doers). [FONT=Arial, sans-serif](Al-'Imran 3:134)[/FONT][/FONT]
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Prophet [FONT=Arial, sans-serif]صلى الله عليه و آله و صحبه و سلم [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."[/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif](Sahih Al-Bukhari 8.135)
A man said to the Prophet [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]صلى الله عليه و آله و صحبه و سلم [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif], "Advise me!" The Prophet said, "Do not become angry and furious." The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious."[/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif](Sahih Al-Bukhari 8.137)[/FONT][/FONT]
[FONT=Arial, sans-serif]...It is said that he (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) mentioned anger, saying, "Some are swift to anger and swift to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other; some are slow to anger and slow to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other;but the best of you are those who are slow to anger and swift to cool down, and the worst of you are those who are swift to anger and slow to cool down." He continued, "Beware of anger, for it is a live coal on the heart of the descendant of Adam. Do you not notice the swelling of the veins of his neck and the redness of his eyes? So when anyone experiences anything of that nature he should lie down and cleave to the earth."(Al-Tirmidhi #5145)[/FONT]
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What to do when angry
Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet [FONT=Arial, sans-serif]صلى الله عليه وسلم [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]while we were sitting with him. One of the two abused his companion furiously and his face became red. The Prophet [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]صلى الله عليه وسلم [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]said, "I know a word (sentence) the saying of which will cause him to relax if this man says it. Only if he said, 'I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the outcast.' " So they said to that (furious) man, "Don't you hear what the Prophet is saying?" He said, "I am not mad."[/FONT] [FONT=Arial, sans-serif](Sahih Bukhari 8.136)[/FONT][/FONT]
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AbuWa'il al-Qass [FONT=Arial, sans-serif]رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنه [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنه [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰعنه [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]who reported the Prophet (peace be upon him) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, [/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]he should perform ablution.[/FONT] [FONT=Arial, sans-serif](Sunan of Abu Dawood)[/FONT][/FONT]
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Prophet (peace be upon him) said to us: [FONT=Arial, sans-serif][/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif]When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down[/FONT][FONT=Arial, sans-serif].(Sunan of Abu Dawood)[/FONT][/FONT]
