AoA members,
I kindly need informed opinion (with references / links as well if possible please) about a brother I know who is going through divorce/khula and is having a tough time processing the Islamic take on his situation.
After searching online I found out the Islamic way of divorce:
This is my understanding of Islamic divorce. Any informed member can kindly correct me if I am wrong in this,.
Now having clarified that, the reason for this post is the process of khula as there is where my confusion lies and I cannot find any reliable source on it.
In this case the wife was constantly demanding divorce from the husband, the husband and wife had been married for 2 years but on every little argument the wife would demand a divorce from him and the the husband would not oblige because he knew the wife was speaking from anger.
But recently it had gotten worse, for no reason and for every argument the wife would demand divorce and if the husband tried to walk out of room or change subject she would start crying as to why he was doing this zulm by not giving her divorce and why he was not exercising the right Allah had given him. She said that her life was hell with her husband and that she cannot live in this fire anymore, she begged for mercy and divorce.
The husband thinking that she might genuinely be unhappy or maybe she loved someone else finally gave the divorce on one of her such requests.
As soon as he gave Talaq she went in shock and immediately regretted it.
???????
She admitted that she would only demand divorce to put pressure on husband and to make him accept her every demand. And for some reason she was sure that he would not actually give the talaq.
But the husband actually gave the divorce, based on the reasons I wrote above.
Now the question is, is this khula?
does the same process of talaq apply here? can she be taken back now?
will the haq mehr be returned?
Very confused here, some informed opinion would greatly help.
Jazakallah Khair
I kindly need informed opinion (with references / links as well if possible please) about a brother I know who is going through divorce/khula and is having a tough time processing the Islamic take on his situation.
After searching online I found out the Islamic way of divorce:
- first it is clarified that in Islam there is no concept of three divorces in a single sitting or together. No matter how many times a man says Talaq in a single sitting it is considered one. After that one talaq there is an idat period of 3 months, this is also the cooling off period as marriage is a precious bond and Allah has given us every opportunity to reconcile and get back together. During this period the husband can at any time take the wife back if they feel theyre differences are resolved and that they can continue with their lives. But even after these three months the husband can still take her back but with a new nikah.
- If this talaq happens three times then the husband and wife cannot get back together the third time even if they wanted to.
This is my understanding of Islamic divorce. Any informed member can kindly correct me if I am wrong in this,.
Now having clarified that, the reason for this post is the process of khula as there is where my confusion lies and I cannot find any reliable source on it.
In this case the wife was constantly demanding divorce from the husband, the husband and wife had been married for 2 years but on every little argument the wife would demand a divorce from him and the the husband would not oblige because he knew the wife was speaking from anger.
But recently it had gotten worse, for no reason and for every argument the wife would demand divorce and if the husband tried to walk out of room or change subject she would start crying as to why he was doing this zulm by not giving her divorce and why he was not exercising the right Allah had given him. She said that her life was hell with her husband and that she cannot live in this fire anymore, she begged for mercy and divorce.
The husband thinking that she might genuinely be unhappy or maybe she loved someone else finally gave the divorce on one of her such requests.
As soon as he gave Talaq she went in shock and immediately regretted it.
???????
She admitted that she would only demand divorce to put pressure on husband and to make him accept her every demand. And for some reason she was sure that he would not actually give the talaq.
But the husband actually gave the divorce, based on the reasons I wrote above.
Now the question is, is this khula?
does the same process of talaq apply here? can she be taken back now?
will the haq mehr be returned?
Very confused here, some informed opinion would greatly help.
Jazakallah Khair